Alienating Parents Don’t Love Their Own Children. Really!

If a person’s attachment systems are malformed because of abuse and trauma in childhood their ability to form relationships and process emotions are damaged as well. These people may operate at very high levels and appear to be normal. It is said that narcissists are not born, they are made. If you observe someone who uses people and discards them as though they have no value, you are likely looking at narcissistic-ordered personality behavior.  If you observe someone who has inappropriate responses in stressful times, again, you may suspect there is a disorder present.  For example, at the death of a parent, sadness would be an appropriate response.  Anger would not be an appropriate response, especially in the entire absence of sadness.

When I first met my ex-father in law, now deceased, he confided in me that he did not want to get close to me, explaining that every time his daughter brought another boyfriend home, the family would get close and start to like the young man and then suddenly, poof!, he was gone.  His daughter would drop the guy in the blink of an eye and for no good reason, except for the possibility of hurting him and her family.  So to protect himself, my ex father in law would keep at arms length from anyone his daughter would present to the family as her new interest.

So an impressionable young and brainwashed offspring of such a person will fare no better in the long run.  They will be told exactly what constitutes love and it will be entitlement, mushy, gushy and often inappropriate banter and behavior (often psychological incest), barriers to outside influence, especially of outsiders who challenge the ‘family’ status quo and it will be very superficial.  The reaching and probing and psychological control of the minds of the children, however, will be incredibly deep and intense and this will become for the children part of what they believe is love but in reality is simply psychological manipulation and control.  Since there will be no real bonding (attachment) either with that parent or allowed with others, the children will grow up with an attachment system defect and will look for others who possess these same traits.  Children then are the true victims and it underscores the point that children of narcissistic-ordered personalities are simply objects for their use.

And this is how a pathology is passed from generation to generation.

 

Here is a short video prepared by Dr. Les Linet MD Psychiatry:

Assessment: This is what you’re looking for… If you see that, then this is what you’re looking at… If that is what you’re looking at, then this is what you do…

Assessment Procedure for Dummies…

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

 

I want to carry this theme for a bit.  Like a spiral, we’ll be drilling down in a circle of three sentences to expose the rock-solid core of the issues.

Assessment:  This is what you’re looking for…

Diagnosis:  If you see that, then this is what you’re looking at:

Treatment:  If that is what you’re looking at, then this is what you do:

Assessment leads to diagnosis, and diagnosis guides treatment.

Assessment

Assessment is the set of procedures used to identify the symptom patterns of various pathologies.

In assessment, the clinician is looking for the symptom patterns of known pathologies.  The more patterns one is familiar with as a mental health professional, the more the symptoms tell you about the origins of the pathology.

Assessment begins by knowing what symptoms you’re looking for from various pathologies.  That’s why we earn advanced degrees in psychology, we’re learning the patterns of symptoms for various pathologies from differing organizing systems.  What is the pattern of symptoms for autism?  What is the pattern of symptoms surrounding ADHD?  Is the child displaying the pattern of symptoms associated with an anxiety disorder?

Now here’s a very specific question:

What is the pattern of symptoms displayed in a family containing a spouse/parent who has prominent narcissistic and/or borderline personality pathology, in response to the inherent rejection and perceived abandonment surrounding divorce?

We know that the narcissistic personality is vulnerable to rejection and that the borderline personality is vulnerable to abandonment fears.  Neither of these personalities is going to respond well to the inherent rejection and the triggering of abandonment fears associated with divorce.  So what is the pattern of symptoms we’re going to see in the family as a result of the psychological collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) parent surrounding divorce?

This is the key to the assessment of “parental alienation”:

Q:  What is the pattern of symptoms associated with the collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent in response to the inherent rejection and perceived abandonment surrounding divorce?

A:  AB-PA answers that question by identifying three specific child symptoms that are evidence of the psychological collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality spouse/parent in response to divorce:

Attachment system suppression toward a normal-range parent (diagnostic indicator 1)

Personality disorder traits in the child’s symptom display (diagnostic indicator 2)

Delusional belief in the child’s supposed “victimization” (diagnostic indicator 3)

This is the symptom pattern described by AB-PA (Foundations) to answer the question of what pattern of symptoms is displayed in a family with a narcissistic/(borderline) spouse/parent who is psychologically collapsing in response to the divorce.

Foundations describes exactly and fully where these three symptoms come from in the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality.

The ONLY pathology in all of mental health that will create this specific pattern of three child symptoms (attachment system suppression, personality disorder traits, an encapsulated persecutory delusion) is the psychological collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality spouse/parent in response to divorce (as described in Foundations).

No other pathology in all of mental health will produce this specific set of three child symptoms other than the collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality spouse/parent in response to divorce.

This is what you’re looking for:

Attachment system suppression (diagnostic indicator 1)

Specific personality disorder pathology in the child’s symptom display (diagnostic indicator 2)

An encapsulated persecutory delusion in the child’s symptom display (diagnostic indicator 3)

This is what you’re looking for (this is what you’re assessing for): those three symptoms of AB-PA, attachment system suppression, personality disorder traits, an encapsulated persecutory delusion.

This is what you’re looking at:

If you see those three symptoms (assessment), then this is what you’re looking at… (diagnosis)

This is what you’re looking for (assessment):  The three diagnostic indicators of AB-PA.

This is what you’re looking at (diagnosis):  The collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) parent surrounding divorce.

Do we need to prove that the allied parent has narcissistic and/or borderline personalty pathology?  No.  Why?  Because those three child symptoms are the symptom pattern for the collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent surrounding divorce.  No other pathology in all of mental health will produce that specific pattern of symptoms in the child other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent.

This is what you’re looking for:  The three diagnostic symptoms of AB-PA.

If you see that, this is what you’re looking at:  Severe Parental Psychopathology.

Narcissistic and borderline personalty pathology is severely distorting to interpersonal relationships and is unlikely to ever change.  This parent will, with almost 100% certainty, triangulate the child into the spousal conflict.

Because narcissistic and borderline personality pathology is so severely pathological and highly resistant to change, it is highly likely that this family will require at least five years (maybe more) of active mental health stabilization following the divorce.

This is what you’re looking at:  Child Psychological Abuse.

Parental narcissistic/(borderline) personality pathology that is creating:

1.)  Severe developmental psychopathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1: attachment system suppression),

2.)  Severe personality disorder psychopathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2: five specific narcissistic personality disorder traits displayed by the child),

3.)  Severe delusional-psychotic psychopathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3: an encapsulated persecutory delusion),

is a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.

This is what you do:

If this is what you’re looking at (diagnosis), then this is what you do (treatment):

Assessment:  This is what you’re looking for:  The three diagnostic indicators of AB-PA.

Diagnosis:  If you see that (the three diagnostic indicators), then this is what you’re looking at:

1.)  The collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent surrounding divorce,

2.)  Severe parental psychopathology,

3.)  A DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse (the creation of severe psychopathology in the child by pathogenic parenting practices).

Treatment:  If that is what you’re looking at, then this is what you do:

Protective Separation:  In all cases of child abuse (physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse) the professional standard of practice and duty to protect requires the child’s protective separation from the abusive parent.

High Road Protocol:  If needed, Dorcy Pruter’s High Road workshop will gently and effectively restore the normal-range functioning of the child’s attachment bonding motivations within a matter of days.

The Contingent Visitation Schedule:  A Strategic family systems intervention that offers a Response to Intervention (RTI) alternative to a complete protective separation, and that can help stabilize family functioning following a protective separation and the reintroduction of the pathogenic parenting of the psychologically abusive parent.

AB-PA Key Solution:  The teaming of an AB-PA Certified mental health professional with an AB-PA Knowledgeable amicus attorney to provide long-term stabilization of family functioning.

The professional rationale for the protective separation is the confirmed DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

The AB-PA Key teaming of an AB-PA Certified mental health professional with an AB-PA Knowledgeable amicus attorney is the treatment-oriented solution response to the severity and chronicity of the parental personality pathology within the family.

The High Road protocol and the Contingent Visitation Schedule are additional options that can be applied as warranted in individual cases.

If the High Road protocol is used to quickly and gently restore the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations within a matter of days, then the AB-PA Certified mental health professional serves as the follow-up recovery stabilization and “maintenance care” therapist for the family.

If the Contingent Visitation Schedule is used, then the AB-PA Certified therapist serves as the Organizing Family Therapist to develop and implement the court-ordered Contingent Visitation Schedule.

Assessment leads to diagnosis, and diagnosis guides treatment.

Assessment:  This is what you’re looking for…

The three diagnostic indicators of AB-PA: attachment system suppression toward a normal-range parent (diagnostic indicator 1), five specific narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display (diagnostic indicator 2), an encapsulated persecutory delusion regarding the child’s supposed “victimization” by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent.

Diagnosis: If you see that, then this is what you’re looking at…

The psychological collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) parent surrounding the divorce (and/or surrounding the remarriage of the other spouse following divorce).

A DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed based on the severity of the child’s pathology created by the pathogenic parenting of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent.

Treatment: If that is what you’re looking at, then this is what you do…

Protective Separation

The High Road Protocol

The Contingent Visitation Schedule

AB-PA Key Solution

This linkage series is not a matter of opinion.  This is a rock solid fact.

There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce that specific set of three child symptoms other than the collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) parent surrounding divorce. (Assessment)

The collapse of a narcissistic/(borderline) personality is a severe form of psychopathology within the family, and the creation of severe psychopathology in the child is a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed. (Diagnosis)

The confirmed DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 provides the professional rationale for the protective separation, and the severity of the parental personality pathology warrants the insertion of an AB-PA Key team to stabilize the family’s post-divorce functioning and transition to a healthy separated family structure. (Treatment)

This linked series is not a matter of opinion.  It is a rock-solid locked-in fact.

Assessment leads to diagnosis, and diagnosis guides treatment.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

A Collection of Short Videos on the Topic of Parental Alienation….

More information is becoming available as more people realize the horror of parental alienation, its causes and its effects on families and children.  The terribly dysfunctional behavior of one parent during and after (and in my case, before) a divorce is borne from serious childhood trauma in their family of origin and can be generational, meaning that it has occurred in previous generations. Here is a glimpse into the pathology.

 

A recovering child of Parental Alienation, Ryan Thomas speaks:

Child of Parental Alienation Speaks Out for the First Time

Hating Half of Myself

What Age Do Kids Know They’re Lied To

Alienated Parent Blamed for Everything Bad

Current Relationship with My Mom

MentalKidAbuse on youtube.com.  Some great insight:

The moment you cease being the target (Who else does the Narcissist target?)

PARENTAL ALIENATION – How to fight back

Parental alienation Grieving the loss of a child whos still alive

Pathological enmeshment

The alienators triad of evil

The Power of Their Alienating Campaign

Parental alienation reversal Everything forbidden is interesting

Parental Alienation and the Child of War-1

Parental Alienator’s Top Actions

Current Limits of AB-PA and a Theory on Alienation of Extended Family Members.

Musings of Tom:

Dr. Craig Childress has done an amazing job of utilizing existing psychological constructs to define Attachment Based Parental Alienation.  I came upon his work in late 2014 before he published his book, Foundations.  Two videos Dr. Childress recorded at CalSouthern University can be found here:  CalSouthernUniversity1 and here: CalSouthernUniversity2

You could say that Dr. Childress’ insight ‘connected all of the dots’ for me.  I had kept a sporadic but detailed journal of my family life events that upon reflection brought more confusion than clarity.  As an engineer I wasn’t a subscriber to psychology as a science.  I thought it was very soft and not much to be relied upon.  You might say that the two videos recorded in August of 2014 made me a true believer.  Suddenly everything I had experienced, though I previously had no ability to explain it, became crystal clear!  I thought it would be a good idea for Dr. Childress to put a picture of my -ex on the cover of his book.

Dr. Childress and his work will save countless families untold suffering and psychological illness going forward.  I believe that the prognosis is less comforting for those whose families have experienced AB-PA in the past and especially where pathological family members have died and cannot participate in any kind of therapy.  I think it gets even more complex where ‘family of origin’ issues extend deeply into families and may include cousins, uncles, grandparents and so on.  The extended family phenomenon is what I would like to explore in this commentary.  Of course these are truly traumatized and pathological family systems where suffering extends through generations and it brings to mind a few verses of the bible.  Here is one:

Numbers 14:18          18 ‘The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.’

I would only add that sins are not only passed on vertically from parent to child but also horizontally from aunts, uncles, cousins and others in society.

Dr. Childress has stated that he does not have an adequate explanation for alienation beyond the family of origin (horizontal displacement).  Why, for example, would children suddenly alienate themselves from cousins, aunts and uncles of the alienated parent?

Now it is only speculative and no psychological research has been done to validate this hypothesis, but my hypothesis is thus:

“Alienation extends into the alienated parent’s family as far as trauma and abuse extended backwards into the family of origin of the favored and alienating parent. This would mean that some kind of abuse (sexual, physical, psychological, other, ?) extended to cousins, uncles and aunts in the family of origin of the favored and alienating parent.  Of course, this does not preclude (vertical or generational) abuse in the family of origin of the favored and alienating parent.”

This is a clinical project for professionals.  I don’t believe that any amount of discussion by unqualified personnel on the topic with victims of these pathologies would yield any beneficial results.  In my own readings on psychological conditions I realize that there are so many feelings, thoughts and memories so deeply embedded and repressed through personality splitting and trauma inducement that most victims will simply never recover and reintegrate their personalities.  I also understand that there is a spiritual component that cannot be ignored in this discussion.  I believe that human beings are souls with bodies not bodies with souls.  Souls animate our bodies and are beyond the veil of materialism.  There won’t be a comprehensive solution until the discipline of faith and science combine and realize that they have come to similar conclusions using very different languages.  Simply put, these pathological people are possessed by demons that the psychological community have broadly categorized into neuroses and psychoses.  We might call them minor and major possessions.

TMG 8/23/2017

 

 

The Tyranny of Low Expectations…..

Tom’s Musings:

I have always wondered why a narcissistic parent would sabotage their children’s futures under the guise of being a ‘giving and caring parent,’ a ‘good parent,’ an ‘indulgent parent,’ a ‘perfect person,’ or any other complimentary phrase used to self adulate.  The reasons only start to become clear when the nature and source of the pathology are known.

It is a frightening and sick world, devoid of empathy and compassion.  It is like asking why a lumberjack would cut down a perfectly healthy tree, cut and split it into small pieces and pile it near a fire pit.  It is not about the tree, it is about me!!!

The narcissist similarly sees their offspring as objects for their use and convenience.  Like the wood of a tree, children can be fashioned into clubs and spears so that if a narcissist begins to dislike their neighbor or anyone else who might threaten the status quo, the children can be used to bludgeon and pierce the unlikable person.   The narcissist, while maintaining an exterior of composure and normalcy, is actually only projecting what they wish the world to see.  They truly do not possess what they project.

It is an unfortunate reality that a personality with a narcissistic-ordered pathology with borderline features has a deep-seated inferiority complex that is the main motivator behind their disordered behavior.  The borderline feature includes the added motivational factor of ‘fear of abandonment.’  Whether the borderline feature or the narcissistic feature are predominant does not matter.  The behavior of either personality type results in the realization of either or both fears.  Their inferiority is discovered and exposed and they are abandoned.  More often than not, these pathological traits are enough to drive any sane person away.

One way to hide these realities, then, is for the narcissist to subsume other personalities into their own, otherwise known as ‘gaining allies.’  This is done subtly, very surreptitiously and often without the knowledge or consent of the victim(s).  False narratives are planted in the minds of these ‘allies.’  Allies can take the form of mental health professionals, members of the legal profession and family members.

When there are close family members where the pathological person has dominance or control over the other(s) there develops a real concern for an inappropriate ‘cross-generational coalition’ where the close family members are not permitted to develop individually and independently, thereby stunting their growth and advancement as productive members of society.  There actually develops a ‘role-reversal’ where the parent/child paradigm is inverted.  The child then becomes the protective parent and the parent reverts into a protected child figure, re-enacting their own childhood trauma narrative that forms much of the basis for the pathology in the first place.

Since these pathological people are not amenable to treatment (try talking a pig into being a horse, for example) the only known way for the family members to recover from this pathological system is to separate from the pathological person and erect safe boundaries which includes limited contact and rules of engagement.

The family members affected by this pathological behavior then also act to reinforce the ‘perfect person’ narrative of the pathology, which is delusional.  If all of your kids could never even do what you were able to accomplish then that confirms the premise;  The pathological person is superior to the subordinate family members.   And I might add that ‘this condition will persist until the subordinate family members are able to separate and individuate.’

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Here is an example of how a tree subsumes a bicycle over time.  Would you like to be the bicycle? How would you exit this kind of unnatural condition?  You can see that the bicycle has not been maintained very well and has had no service in say, 20 or 30 years.  Can the bicycle have friends without the permission of the tree?  Probably not!  Certainly not one that wants to go on a bicycle ride!!!!!

 

The Tyranny of Low Expectations

Low expectations are one of the most subtle yet devastatingly effective forms of sabotage we can do to others and ourselves. Low expectations often masquerade as kindness yet they are the cruelest cuts because they deny an individual or an organization its opportunity for greatness.

By passing low expectations off as being nice or kind under the guise of going easy on someone, low expectations perpetuate another insidious myth: That discipline is mean. Discipline is simply a mental tool, a form of training that lets you develop the skills and abilities to make your life better. Like any tool, discipline can and has been misused at times but in general discipline is an incredibly valuable, frequently overlooked tool to create extraordinary value in your life.

Low expectations often involve mental laziness on both sides of the equation. Holding someone (or yourself) accountable is a LOT of hard work. It is much easier to just slide by. Easier that is until the time of testing comes and those who are not prepared diligently fail miserably.

Closing quotes:

“High expectations are the key to everything.” — Sam Walton, Walmart founder

“High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” — Charles Kettering, inventor of the electric starter; 1876-1958

“To expect defeat is nine-tenths of defeat itself.” — Henry Louis Mencken; 1880-1956

“Nobody succeeds beyond his or her wildest expectations unless he or she begins with some wild expectations.” — Ralph Charell

Encapsulated Persecutory Delusion, a Psychotic Pathology

Really Bad Clinical Psychology

To:  Clinical psychologists who are assessing, diagnosing, and treating attachment-related pathology surrounding divorce (AB-PA)

Re:  Professional Competence


I am appalled that clinical psychologists are not recognizing and diagnosing a psychotic pathology that is sitting right in front of you in your office – an encapsulated persecutory delusion.

A psychotic pathology.   Right in front of you.  And you are totally missing recognizing it and diagnosing it.

Wow.  You know what?  You are a really bad clinical psychologist.  Just awful.

We’re not talking some strange esoteric form of pathology.  We’re talking psychotic pathology, right in front of you.  And you are entirely missing it.

I mean, seriously… psychotic pathology.  Wow.  You are a really bad clinical psychologist if you can’t even recognize and diagnose psychotic pathology when it’s sitting right in front of you.

The child is displaying an encapsulated persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief that the child is being malevolently treated – being “victimized” – by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent.

Here, let me take you by the hand and lead you through this…

Does the child believe that he or she is being malevolently treated – being “victimized” – by the targeted parent? – Yes.

Persecutory belief.

Is this true? – No.

False belief.

Does the child evidence the ability to change this false persecutory belief in response to the actual reality that the child is NOT being malevolently treated – is not being “victimized” – by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent?  – No.

Persecutory delusion.

Does the child evidence delusions in other areas of life? – No.

Encapsulated persecutory delusion.

See how this diagnosis thing works?  Jeez Louise, you’re supposed to be a clinical psychologist.  This is your job.  Holy cow.

But you are looking squarely at a psychotic pathology – an encapsulated persecutory delusion – and you are totally missing it.

Wow.  I am absolutely floored.  You are a really bad clinical psychologist if you can’t even recognize and diagnose a psychotic pathology.

Does the child have an endogenous psychosis, like schizoprhenia?  No.  Wait… You can’t possibly be such an awful clinical psychologist that you would actually think that the child’s encapsulated persecutory delusion represents an endogenous psychosis originating in the child… can you?  I don’t know.  I’m so stunned that you can’t even recognize and diagnose psychotic pathology that I’m not sure quite how bad things are with you.

But no, the child does not have an endogenous psychotic pathology.  So if the psychotic pathology is not arising spontaneously to the child, then what is the source for the child’s encapsulated persecutory delusional belief that the child is being “victimized” by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent?

Okay, take my hand again and let me walk you through this…

Can the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent create a delusion in the child – a false belief – that the child is being “victimized” by the normal range parenting of the targeted parent?  No.  Normal-range parenting cannot create a delusion.

Have you ever heard of any case in which a normal-range parent created a persecutory delusion in the child by normal-range parenting? – No.  Normal-range parenting cannot create a delusion.

Okay, then we can safely rule-out the targeted parent as the source of this delusional belief evidenced by the child.

So now we’ve ruled out the child having an endogenous psychosis (or are you still thinking that this might be childhood schizophrenia? – It’s not – but you’re such a bad clinical psychologist I don’t know what you’re thinking – but it’s not. There is no evidence to suggest that the child is independently psychotic).

And we’ve ruled-out the targeted parent as the source of the child’s encapsulated persecutory delusion.  Care to hazard a guess as to the next possible source to explore?  Right, the allied and supposedly “favored” parent.  Yay for you.

So, is it possible that the allied and supposedly “favored” parent has a false belief that the child is being “victimized” by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent?  Yes, that’s possible.  Hmmm, how could we go about checking this out, to see if the allied and supposedly “favored” parent has the same beliefs as the child that the child is being “victimized” by the supposedly bad parenting of the targeted parent?

Hey, I know… how about we interview the allied parent and obtain this parent’s perceptions of the child’s supposed “victimization” by the parenting practices of the other parent.  Whaddya think?  Good idea?

And you know what, the allied and supposedly “favored” parent evidences exactly the same beliefs as the child.  Wow.  What a coincidence, eh?  They both share the same persecutory delusional belief surrounding the child’s supposed “victimization” by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent.

Okay, now here’s a tough diagnostic question… what is the pathology called when two people (who live together and are closely related by blood, and are in a close relationship in which one of them is dominant over the other one) – what is the clinical psychology pathology called when these two people share the same delusion? — Right, a shared delusion.  Whew, I’m so proud of you.  You’re doing great.  When two people share the same delusion, the clinical pathology is called a shared delusion.

So we’ve now diagnosed a shared persecutory delusion – shared between the child and the allied and supposedly “favored” parent.

Okay, so we’re about to close out this diagnostic walk through, but before we do… you know what I find so amazing – and so incredibly appalling?  That you never-ever reached this point in the diagnosis of the psychotic pathology that is sitting right in front of you.  I am stunned.

You’re supposed to be a clinical psychologist, yet you entirely miss recognizing and diagnosing a psychotic pathology that’s sitting right in front of you with a flashing neon sign that says “Delusion – Encapsulated Persecutory Delusion” – and you’re just oblivious.  Wow.

You are a really bad clinical psychologist.  Really bad.

Okay, but let’s finish off this hand-holding diagnostic walk-through…

The child has an encapsulated persecutory delusion.  We’ve ruled-out that the child has an endogenous psychosis (like schizophrenia – you’ll agree with me on that, right?), and we’ve ruled-out the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent as a potential source for creating a persecutory delusion in the child, and we’ve identified that the child and the supposedly “favored” parent share the same delusion, so… what do we know about a shared delusion?

Let’s turn to the American Psychiatric Association in the DSM-IV TR.  Yes, I know we’re using the DSM-5 now, but for more than a decade the diagnosis of a shared delusion (which they call a Shared Psychotic Disorder) was acknowledged by the American Psychiatric Association, let’s just look at what they say about the pathology:

From the American Psychiatric Association: “Usually the primary case in Shared Psychotic Disorder is dominant in the relationship and gradually imposes the delusional system on the more passive and initially healthy second person.”

So, who is “dominant” in this case?  A:  The allied and supposedly “favored” parent.

And did the child’s persecutory delusion toward the targeted parent develop gradually over time?  A: Yes.

So this would seemingly indicate that the allied and supposedly “favored” parent is the “inducer” and the child is “the more passive and initially healthy second person.”

From the American Psychiatric Association: “Individuals who come to share delusional beliefs are often related by blood or marriage and have lived together for a long time, sometimes in relative isolation.”

Are the child and the allied parent “related by blood”?  A: Yes.

Have they “lived together for a long time?”  A:  Yes.

So far the pathology fits perfectly.

From the American Psychiatric Association: “If the relationship with the primary case is interrupted, the delusional beliefs of the other individual usually diminish or disappear.”

Oh wow, here we’re getting some potentially useful treatment recommendations.  If we separate the child from the pathology of the parent, the child’s encapsulated persecutory delusion regarding the targeted parent will “diminish or disappear.”  Good to know, don’t ya think?

From the American Psychiatric Association: “Although most commonly seen in relationships of only two people, Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.” (p. 333)

“…especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.”

Wow.  Sounds pretty much like an exact fit to me.

Does the American Psychiatric Association have anything to say about the course of a shared delusional belief?  Why yes they do.

From the American Psychiatric Association: “Without intervention, the course is usually chronic, because this disorder most commonly occurs in relationships that are long-standing and resistant to change.”

Pretty spot on, don’t ya think?  Does the American Psychiatric Association have anything to say about treatment?  Whaddya know, yes they do.

From the American Psychiatric Association: “With separation from the primary case, the individual’s delusional beliefs disappear, sometimes quickly and sometimes quite slowly.” (p. 333)

Well, there ya go… “With separation from the primary case, the individual’s delusional beliefs disappear…”

So, according the the American Psychiatric Association, the child’s persecutory delusional beliefs that the child is being somehow “victimized” by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent will “disappear” with the child’s “separation” from the “inducer” of the allied and supposedly “favored” parent.

Wow.  From the American Psychiatric Association.  Shared delusional pathology fits exactly.  Seriously, I can’t imagine a more perfect diagnostic fit.  With treatment recommendations even.  American Psychiatric Association… the child’s symptomatic rejection of the targeted parent will “disappear” with the child’s “separation” from the allied parent.  Wow.  There ya go.

All that’s needed is a competent clinical psychologist.  Dang, instead we have you.  Dang, dang, dang.  Tough luck for the family then, because they have an ignorant and incompetent clinical psychologist who is going to sacrifice the child to a psychotic psychopathology because of flat out ignorance and incompetence.  Dang.

And did you also know that the diagnosis of Shared Psychotic Disorder is still in the ICD-10 diagnostic system (a diagnostic code of F24) of the World Health Organization, so you can still make that diagnosis if you want to, just use the ICD-10 diagnostic system.  The ICD-10 diagnostic system is a fully credible and accepted diagnostic system.  Internationally accepted.  World Health Organization.  All insurance companies in the U.S. require an ICD-10 diagnosis.  You’d be completely on solid ground making the ICD-10 diagnosis of F24 if you wanted to.

But you know what?  You are such a really-really bad clinical psychologist that this isn’t even an option for you because you can’t even recognize when you have a psychotic pathology sitting right in front of you.  Whoosh, nothing.  Completely oblivious to a psychotic pathology sitting right in front of you.

In Chapter 6 of Foundations I even describe in detail exactly the communication dynamic between the child and the allied parent that creates the child’s persecutory delusional belief, and in Chapter 7 of Foundations I describe in detail the origins of the delusional belief in the false trauma reenactment narrative contained in the internal working models of the allied parent’s attachment networks.  I explain it all for you in Foundations.

But here’s the thing… bottom line…

You’re supposed to be a clinical psychologist, but you can’t even recognize and diagnose psychotic pathology when it’s sitting right in front of you.  You seriously need to review your diagnostic skill set and you need to start to care about developing basic, minimal, standards of professional competence.

Start with the psychotic disorders – the really clear stuff.  Schizophrenia, hallucinations, delusions.  Then move to the mood disorder pathologies, major depression, anxiety disorders, panic attacks.  Don’t take on the subtler diagnostic stuff like PTSD or autism-spectrum disorders until you get the really clear and basic stuff down.  Get your feet under yourself first.

Seriously, if you cannot even recognize psychotic pathology when it’s sitting right in front of you, you shouldn’t be practicing clinical psychology – because you’re a really bad clinical psychologist – and when you’re such a really-really bad clinical psychologist, you are then directly responsible for destroying the lives of children and families who come to you for help.

You shouldn’t destroy the lives of children and families.  Go become a plumber or a shopkeeper, because you should not be a clinical psychologist.  If you cannot diagnose psychotic pathology that’s sitting right in front of you, then you are a really bad clinical psychologist who will destroy the lives of the children and families who come to you for help.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857